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time for change

Headache...

4/3/2009

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Arcadia drew me into this thread.  What are we going to do with her?

Her Questions:
Does the name you don’t like affect how you feel about the child and the child’s parents?

I hate to admit it but yes, there is an effect.  Names are important.  Google and you can find dozens of articles about how a child’s name influences how they’re perceived by teachers and employers and peers.  It matters.  I try not to let that show to her or them.  But painful honesty in the blog at least, right?
 
Would you be annoyed if your IPs chose one of your other children’s names as the name of their baby to be?  Would that be confusing for you?  Upsetting?

I’d probably be a little annoyed or a little upset but I’d eventually get over it.  It wouldn’t be confusing though.  Many people have the same names.  There just aren’t enough names.  I work with someone who has my daughter’s middle name as her first name.  My daughter has 2 “Cassidy” kids in her class at school.  It happens.
The children with different names on their original birth certificate and the amended one, do you think they’ll be confused some day?

I hope not.  I think you were so confused and upset because you never knew.  They’ll know.  Their parents aren’t hiding things.  I know Morrigan has her original birth certificate in her baby scrap book for her (and everyone else) to see.
The child that you didn’t name at all, do you think that some day she’ll be upset because you didn’t care enough to name her and let her just be Baby Girl?    

I don’t know, maybe.  It’s not really that I “didn’t care enough to name her.”  The agency discouraged it.  And the hospital didn’t even offer me the paperwork.  I didn’t know I could name her.  And her parents had already picked a name.  I instantly disliked it…but I didn’t’ want to tell them.  What if they had decided they didn’t want her if I didn’t like their name?

9 Comments
Kell
4/3/2009 12:01:48 pm

Spank her? Or tie her up for a time-out? No. She might enjoy that too much.

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Ginger
4/3/2009 11:11:12 pm

When did you start reading me? I’m not sure that I should let you post that about Em... If she objects, I’ll pull it off. And if she enjoys it, it’s not punishment…

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Emmy link
4/4/2009 02:45:35 am

It’s fine. Who would care even if they thought she was serious?

Thanks for answering my questions.

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Kell
4/4/2009 08:48:07 am

I’ve been reading since the first time Emmikins posted a link in her blog. And I AM serious.

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Emmy link
4/4/2009 10:40:58 am

I wouldn’t let you. You don’t have permission to harm me.

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Kell
4/4/2009 12:33:32 pm

But you’d enjoy it.

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Emmy link
4/4/2009 04:31:29 pm

Doesn’t matter.

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Ginger
4/5/2009 04:41:58 am

sigh… I almost never get comments and now this… Stop you two. Or I’ll delete this whole thing… E- You may have future IPs who read here. K – some things just don’t belong on my blog. I stay away from those games. And I don’t want to referee.

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Rebekah
4/5/2009 09:21:56 pm

I think its wonderful that you can name your child and it stays on the original birth certificate. Im glad I liked the name that they picked out for my little guy so I dont have to worry about that. Im so glad your grandma is doing ok.

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